Saturday, November 8, 2014

worth a thousand words


I cant stop thinking about my eternity with this man. He makes me so happy it is unbelievable. I know these posts are probably beginning to sound tired, but I never get tired of talking about my best friend. He is literally my world and I could not imagine my life without him.
That being said I have recently been taking a marriage skills class at my college and I loved something that we talked about. My professor talked about how young married couples think they are the only couple that fights because every other couple looks so happy, but in reality they have just as many problems as you. Our society thinks that talking about our problems within our marriage to a friend means that we are "going behind their back" or just complaining about our problems. So we begin t think that we shouldn't ask for help when there is a big problem and just keep things within the marriage. However, when that happens we all suffer in silence and that alone can end up destroying a marriage. This short time I have been in this class I have learned a lot, We also talked about those doubts that sneak into the back of your mind. Doubts are different than red flags.Red flags are things like abusive behavior and maybe secrets that irritate them when you talk about it. Second thoughts are natural and they happen to everyone. It just depends on what you do with that thought. In an eternal marriage those second thoughts and doubts are put there by Satan to try and break an eternal and everlasting covenant. If you feed those doubts then of course your mind is going to turn those thoughts into red flags. But if you dismiss the thought and think of all the reasons you love your significant other then those thoughts should fade.
Satan works on me everyday, in little ways. It used to effect me a lot before Nick and I got engaged, but I have noticed that those thoughts fade if I just think of all the reasons we are doing this instead of the few that make me think we shouldn't.
DISCLAIMER I am not writing this because I am doubting things (because I am NOT!) I am simply writing about things in general.
Eternity with this man could never be enough time. Sometimes he doesn't understand why I am so in love with him, but I wish he could see why I love him so much. Is is the most genuine person I have ever met. He cares about other people and knows how to show emotion. He isn't afraid of saying what he thinks and he knows how to communicate. (which is something I am working on) You know the saying that "You hurt the ones you love the most"? That is very true, but I think also the ones you love the most know how it feels to be loved that much and nothing can surpass that.